I don't mind the opinions of others. Sometimes I like them, sometimes I don't, and sometimes they just plain hurt. But I don't mind other people's opinions. Everyone is entitled to them, everyone has them, but when people share such negative comments on something you feel differently about, it just seems plain WRONG!
I'm sitting here wanting to cry, and I'm sure some of you reading this are going to think I'm being ridiculous, and that's the lovely thing about opinions, you can. But after you're done reading, please don't tell me you think I'm stupid.
I want to home school but both my husband and I feel it's not the right decision. Whether that means for now or forever, only God can tell us. The one thing I know for sure is that He put us in charge of our children's education, be it home school, public, or private school. That's for us to decide and whatever decision we make now doesn't mean it has to stay that way or be that way for each individual child.
So this morning I make a comment on Facebook {probably mistake #1} about not being at a place where I can say I'm happy sending Caleb back to school. I enjoy him being home. You have to understand he's my firstborn, there are a lot of feelings that go into sending off your first child, as I'm sure many of you already know! Maybe by spring break I'll feel different, but not yet. So a friend makes a comment that "there's always homeschooling", another says "he likes school Jacquie", and another tells me {in regards to homeschooling} it's not healthy for your children, what about their social skills. I re-read these and sure they sound like nothing, but the last 2 just make me cry.
My children are so very socialized and yes Caleb loves school, but neither argument makes it any easier to send him off nor do they make it the right decision. If we decided to home school, that would be the right decision because only Tim and I can determine what's right with God's guiding.
Have your opinions against homeschooling, that doesn't bother me, but use reasonable arguments and don't be rude!
I need to go give my emotions a break.
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ReplyDeleteI frequently say people need to keep their opinions to themselves. They just don't realize the impact they have on others. (Yes, I admit I'm guilty of this at times too. I'm human after all!)
While your heart breaks that you have to send him off try and find that sliver of silver lining...like he DOES like school. Imagine how much harder it would be if he didn't! He gets to learn things from a different perspective from his teacher while you still get to teach him all the things you want to teach him.
Well, I understand where you are coming from. The one problem with internet is that it has given people the freedom to say things they would never say to our faces.
ReplyDeleteI am a homeschooling mom. However, I am NOT anti-school. Obviously, I am home with my kids. HOwever, I am not anti-working mom. I think we all need to follow the Lord and do what He directs us to do. We all have a different path. Our decisions need to be Godly. Others need to respect the decisions we make and keep their opinions to themselves. Just because everyone has one doesn't mean they need to share it. If you did not ask for their opinion then it is not required they give it.
I have not had anyone I know say anything negative to me about homeschooling. I have had many question my decision that I hardly know or meet in a store or somewhere. I don't think anyone needs to question my decisions. Asking me for advice or asking me out of sheer curiosity is fine. However, to ask because you think I am insane is not proper. I don't go around questioning others. I also don't feel I have the right to throw my opinions around.
Sadly, we live in a world where people really think what they feel matters. How we feel does not matter as much as how we act or how thte Lord is directing our path.
I think that any decision you make you will wonder if its the right one. I think any decision has it's ups and downs. So, we just need to be sure we are making the right decision based on God and what our family's needs are.
Geesh, I am busy enough, I don't have time to worry about the lives of others..I can't walk two spiritual paths or raise two families. LOL.
Just keep doing what you know is best and don't worry about anything else.
Don't let it break you! My daughter goes to a Christian school because I felt homeschooling wasn't a part of our lives right now and I had friends trying to say that I would regret. I told them it's my regret to have. You hang in there. Only you and your husband with God's guidance knows what's right.
ReplyDeleteIt prefectly fine to have these feelings like you said these were their opinions and its your right to disagree i know its hard to seperate from your firstborn or any child of yours for that matter i'm still having trouble with daycare and its only been a couple times little man has gone. you know they say crying is like taking your soul to the laundrymat... its good to cry sometimes :) hang in there!
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting me on my blog. Boy do I know how you feel. I have been homeschooling my daughter since she was 14 months and I am so anxious about sending her to school. I discovered after much prayer and wise counsel that God will lead me to the healthy decision for what is right for her. She will be four (and headed to school for the first time) I felt inadequate because she is learning so much and now I dont know what else to teach her, nor am I dedicated enough with my time to invest in her the way she deserves to be. My hubby & I have decided to try a home school program that lets them go to school for three days with other home schooled children and then stay home for two days. We'll see how it works.
ReplyDeleteI agree with ruby it is fine to have these feelings and I want you to know that you are not alone. All of the mothers who have home schooled at this point that I know have battled with whats right. Trust God & seek Him for the right decision and all will be well.
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